Into the Fire

Passionate thoughts about the world of writing and the Power of God

Since it’s almost Valentine’s Day, I’ll tackle my bi-yearly topic from another angle.

Hmm. Being a writer of what I choose to call “non-traditional romance”, perhaps just to be difficult but mostly because my stories don’t fall into the traditional “norm” for CBA romance, I’ve realized that of all the genres it might just be easiest to write poorly when constructing a romance novel. I admit I read less of the genre now than when I began to write them, and from that beginning I’ve strayed noticeably from the more “proper” forms. The beautiful exception to that “norm” of old was Francine Rivers’ Redeeming Love setting the legendary benchmark for an amazing story with the accompanying writing to match.

I have to chuckle every time my friend Mike Duran mentions “romance” because it is invariably coupled with the adjective “sappy”. Now I question how much romance Mike has actually read in either ABA or CBA, but the point here rests in the perception of romance writing as being gooey, too sweet, formulaic, and concluding with perfect endings. Well . . . that’s not too far from the truth with a lot of category romance. Different publishers designate whatever restrictions they prefer in certain imprints for romance, but the larger CBA publishers truly are branching out and daring to allow such amazing stories as Lisa Samson’s The Passion of Mary-Margaret which artfully and without blanching creates a story dotted with sordid situations. Kristen Heitzmann writes strong and meaningful romance for Bethany House.

The changes I’ve noticed in recent romance writing which isn’t peculiar to the genre are heroines who have whiny tendencies, immature or abandoned faith issues which never quite get beyond shallow, self-absorbed personalities, and who seem not to have a clue what men are like, what they value, or where their struggles lie, and once they have conflict with them: they seem not to care about those very things. I know I can’t handle those kinds of characters in either gender or in any story unless the writer can somehow give them a more dimensional personality to draw out my concern for them.

These characters I just described have been visible in other genres but they’re usually less conspicuous or less important in them. Romance focuses its attention on the heroine and/or protagonist so if either of them or both are flawed to the point of irreconcilable differences between them and me, I usually fall just short of hating the book.

One reason I call my “stuff” non-traditional romance is because sexual issues play an important role in all of my novels. Unless an author writes for pre-teens, it seems disingenuous to leave out the challenges of sexual attraction in a romance novel. And since the world’s view of these attractions and reactive situations contrast to God’s view on this matter, worldly conduct plays out without judgment on the pages of my novels. And this is the precise reason I always seem to quantify who my audience is and who it isn’t. I have no idea why Christians get squeamish about sex as long as it’s not graphically portrayed since it is the physical means God ordained for committed people to share and enjoy their love. The multiple obstacles to this enjoyment involve all kinds of perplexities in the human psyche from perceptions to physical assaults, so the area lends itself to meaningful story material. Characters that face romantic circumstances must face sexual issues. Worldly characters and Christian characters handle situations differently, but it can be a genuine struggle for either depending on those situations.

Nevertheless, romance often suffers from cliché, from two dimensional men and women, and from formulaic writing with little imagination or unique style. Sometimes the “clean” factor is unrealistic, but its appeal services a particular group of readers. The more blatant writing about sexual issues in romance offends a portion of this group, some even to the point of harsh criticism.

I’ve concluded romance writing is difficult to make meaningful to readers like myself. I like pop and sizzle, real characters who demonstrate their humanity and their spirituality and how they struggle with both when confronted with relationship, romance, and redemption.

Father, some days we sit atop our little mountains and other days we plunge to the rocks below. You know me, and what’s important for me. Please help me to focus on you in all things. In the Name of Jesus, Amen.

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11 responses to “On writing Romance . . .”

  1. Dayle Avatar
    Dayle

    I will posit a theory. And being a guy, keep in mind I’m inherently hypocritical on this issue.
    Most (or many) Christians view sex as a private issue. Yes it’s a gift from God meant to be shared between husband and wife but it’s private. So I think many feel they are violating the principles sanctity of privacy–even if they are fictional principles.

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  2. Nicole Avatar

    And I agree that it’s private between a husband and wife, but when on a daily basis each individual must face certain sexual issues–at least outside the home on magazines in a check out line, on billboards, etc.–isn’t it naive to assume we might not be tempted? And for the world it can be a way of life–to be tempted and to act on that temptation because there’s no reason not to do so. The differences between a right desire and lust usually don’t get much play in certain fiction.
    I’ve known women who could care less why men are “stimulated”. They just think they’re “wrong” without giving a second thought as to their “wiring” since those women feel the men should fit into their version of what a man should be.
    You know I try to write real, Dayle, without being graphic. That’s why I give disclaimers.
    Always good to hear from you here.

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  3. Kristen Torres-Toro Avatar

    Hey, N!
    I feel like romance is one of the hardest genres to write because it’s so hard to do it well and in a way that is authentic and compelling to our readers. The audience for CBA and ABA is vastly different, and I think writing on such a topic (in areas with such vastly different views, specificially on sexuality) takes a lot of skill and sensitivity.
    I do feel like CBA in general skims over the issue that is very real and on the other hand, some ABA books I’ve read (based on recommendation on the quality of the story) had scenes that were way too graphic. Some examples of CBA writers I’ve found who write it really well (and some would say push the envelope on that) are Victoria Christopher Murray and Marilyn Griffith, although Murray is a little more intense. I felt like they were very appropriate adult Christian books, though not for everyone.
    I agree with Dayle on the privacy issue and I feel like you found a great balance for that in TFO. I felt like it was realistic, tasteful, and essential to the story.
    I don’t know if CBA will ever find a balance here on this issue. It’s definitely a hot topic in more ways than one. And there’s such a widespread variety of beliefs amongst our denominations. ABA doesn’t have a hurdle like that (in the same capacity… it has its own obstacles).

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  4. Dayle Avatar

    Glad to hear that you “get it”, Nicole. Alot of women don’t. Dr. Laura gets it. Women should listen to her. She understands men about as perfectly as a woman can. I think I could hit the road doing 2 hour lectures informing women of the male wiring.
    You’re right. The sheer volume of visual stimulation we have to endure on a daily basis has a negative impact on our relationships. I could go on and on. Maybe I should write a book about it.
    Btw, I agree with Kristen, I think you handle it in your writing as well as anyone I’ve read.

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  5. Nicole Avatar

    You’re awfully wise for a young single woman, K.
    Thank you for your comments about The Famous One. Your opinion is valuable to me.
    I haven’t read Murray or Griffith, but I thought C. M. Burney did a great job in Zora and Nicky. Kristen Heitzmann captures the sizzle.
    Some ABA publishers required graphics in the romance genre which led some current CBA writers to leave and seek publishing with Christian publishers.
    I suppose a good balance will always be ill-defined on this sensitive topic–and offense will be found at either end.

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  6. Nicole Avatar

    I’m one of those women who think Everyman’s Battle should be required reading for women as well as men.
    Thank you so much, Dayle. You can’t know how much it means to me . . .

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  7. Dayle Avatar

    Just a thought that may interest you, Nicole.
    Every guy is actually two guys. Given that most women have no clue what guy #2 is thinking on a regular basis (and trust me, they don’t want to know), we tend to write fiction with only guy #1’s thoughts (pov). And even those have to be somewhat sanitized.
    I would opine that if I let my main character expose his guy #2 in the narrative, women would hate him and thus hate the book.
    What you’ve done in your writing(and the trick to doing it well or it becomes pornography) is allow guy #1 to be in total control. Thus the scene is closer in line with what God intended sex to be.

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  8. Nicole Avatar

    (I think it’s weird that Typepad assigned you a pink color, Dayle. 😉 )
    Anyway, hmm. I’ve written a few characters in some of my other books which might favor your #2 description. I’d have to think about your description more, but my opinion might be that the #1 and #2 can be closely related in a character without completely opting out for pornography. Number 1 subdues (or attempts to) #2 in serious Christian men and in worldly men who have some class.
    With Joey in The Famous One his heart’s desire was for love and family, but he had no idea how to get there. All he knew were random relationships in his search, but he had no intention of degrading those relationships, whereas, according to your definition of #2, women become mere objects designed to satisfy the lust.

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  9. Kristen Torres-Toro Avatar

    Thanks so much, Nicole!
    I feel like a book based on the #2 guy needs to be written and circulated, even if it’s polarizing. It would take a lot of guts and hard work–but all writing is that anyway.
    This discussion today reminds me of the one on NovelMatters yesterday. I think they are linked. I didn’t comment there because by the time I got on it was too late. But it strikes me as another facet of the struggles of CBA.
    I’ve never read Burney. That’s another one for the list. I’m going to reread Heitzman’s “Twilight” soon. I think I’ve read it before but can’t remember.

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  10. Nicole Avatar

    Twilight was good, but A Rush of Wings and the sequel The Still of Night were awesome. My all-time favorites of Kristen’s were Secrets and its sequel Unforgotten–they make my “Best” list. The third one in that series, Echoes, wasn’t as good as the first two IMO.
    If I understood Dayle’s conundrum/defintion correctly, he’s saying that a character who is a total #2 would be an undesirable protagonist. And I have to agree unless the guy does a complete turnaround. And in that process the writer would have to build into the character something attractive/redeemable to keep the reader from abandoning the story.
    I wrote a book called Wounds . . . and Healings which deals with the wounds caused by sexual addictions. In that story one character is a total number #2 and not redeemable. Another character in the story is a number #1 with heavy number #2 overtones who is redeemable. Sexual issues pervade our society. Not everyone wants to read novels which deal with these issues or even address them. As I’ve said: to each his own. However, when you write these issues into story, sometimes people relate or find a new understanding for what others face.

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  11. Nicole Avatar

    (Geez. Still trying to figure out why I did the double number # thing.)

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